Camaraderie Is the Remedy
I’m jealous of my car. Wherever I go, I often see its make and model parked nearby.
A car’s exterior is indicative of its interior qualities.
Not so with people.
Unlike cars, people don’t find their type based on the outside, they find it based on others’ insides. And that takes time to discover!
Certain situations can make it harder to connect with others. Life circumstances can be isolating, including but not limited to: moving, job change, health condition, parenthood, divorce—just to name a few.
Finding a community or communities where one feels seen is so life-giving.
I am blessed to have found community that matches my values. In which I can thrive and be accepted just as I am and supported in my journey of life and personal growth.
I try to build community. I want others to feel a sense of connectedness and belonging in a judgment-free zone.
That is because that is the type of atmosphere that I’ve myself yearned for and work to achieve. So too I want it for others.
Maybe it’s a bit codependent.
I strive for interdependence, not codependence.
There is a saying in Judaism, how we are all connected and responsible for each other.
That is interdependence.
Codependence would be not honoring others’ boundaries and prying too deeply (or at all) into their personal matters and/or judging them.
I’m no expert on codependency, just a work in progress! You want an expert, check out Melody Beattie :)
I feel weird not putting a period after that smiley face, but it doesn’t look right.
I hereby declare smiley faces are suitable periods when the circumstances arise!
Plus, I like bending the strict grammar rules at times—otherwise what’s the point of having a poetic license? (Speaking of which, I think it’s due for renewal soon…)
In all seriousness (ok, some seriousness, all seriousness would be drab!) I really do love being in community and creating community.
Which is why I created Movie Club this weekend.
It’s a trial, experimental, as all things are when they begin.
I can’t even tell if it will go anywhere.
My gut says it won’t. But I told my gut, “Hey, thanks for trying to protect my emotions, I’m gonna stick it out a bit more and see if this idea sticks.” (Pun intended.)
Anyway, Movie Club or not. Y’all are already in a community with me—this blog ;)
And I want to share with you about the movie.
This weekend’s movie was Man on the Moon!
Which led to a deep dive into Andy Kaufman as well as Jim Carrey.
It was fascinating. Heartfelt. At times, heart-wrenching.
Watching a biopic, or reading a biography, makes me feel like I am getting to know someone and their life, their humanness, their overcoming obstacles—makes me feel inspired and less alone on my own path.
And when I learn about comedians, it has an added layer in that it provides me with deeper wisdom that helps me evolve my own comedic craft.
Rest In Peace, Andy Kaufman.
Rock On, Jim Carrey.
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